Affairs: Couple Counselling can
Helping couples recover from affairs is approximately half of my workload.
Whether you're on the receiving end of a full-blown affair, an emotional
betrayal, or a foolish "indiscretion", it's normal to feel a mixture of hurt, anger,
It can take some time for these feelings to go away, especially if your partner
I provide a safe place where you can both begin to come to terms with what has
happened, and begin to feel as if there is hope for recovery.
I help the spouse who has suffered the affair to begin to express their feelings
openly, and I help to make sure they feel heard and understood by their partner.
In addition to helping the spouse who has had the affair understand how it really is for their
partner, I also help them come to terms with their own feelings.
I help explore ways to rebuild trust, and have a look at what - if anything - was wrong before the
I help couples begin to rebuild their relationship, and to
repair their relationship in the aftermath of the affair.
Choosing the right counsellor
You need a counsellor who has the courage and experience to deal with this
type of work.
Often, the person who had the affair says "Let's move
on", or "Let's put it behind us". I help couples to avoid making
this mistake, and to
face up to the tasks necessary for recovery.
Research shows that
many counsellors avoid this essential work.
I will keep you both on track, and help you avoid the fatal trap of allowing the
affair to be "Swept under the carpet".
An affair pushed under the carpet will always come back
later to cause trouble.
Although recovering from an affair can be quite difficult, it is definitely "do-able".
A good counsellor will help you make a quick start to your recovery, and keep
you on track while you do it.